What's wrong with being different?

 Hello folks!!

So, in this post, I would like to get my thoughts out, about differences.

Before that, I'll tell you my previous experience which caused me to write about this..

So, 2 days ago, I and my friends visit one of the pubs in Ireland, to watch one of Ireland's Oasis Tribute bands.

And not gonna lie and I'm not going to hide this too, that was my first time going to the pub. I have never been to any pub before.

Ohh and I also want to tell you this, the band was late af. On the ticket, it was written 8pm, but they were really started at 9 pm, so I and my friends stood and waited for them for more than 1 hour.

Why did we stand up? Because the chairs and seats were already full and all (or maybe almost) of the people who were seated, bought a drink (alcohol, etc), and since we didn't drink, we decided just to stand up until the band come.

Ok, so we talked while standing up near the 2nd-floor railing. By the way, the situation in that pub was sooo crowded, people talked really loudly and they socialized while holding a beer. Meanwhile, I and my friends just went there for the show lol :)). And honestly, from the start, I already felt that someone/some people was "looking at" or "watching" me or my friends. Why? I'm not sure. Maybe because we are different?:)). Yeah, we wore hijab and we're short. But I tried not to care because I also paid the same amount as them to get there, so, what's the difference? Moreover, the obligation to buy alcohol, beer or drinks like that wasn't written on the website. And isn't it our right to not drink whatever we don't want to drink?

Okay, so after a while, my worries became real, there was a guy (he's like 25-28, I think) who reached us, from Dinda's left side. So, back then this is our position (The guy and his friends - Dinda -fina - me). And after that guy approached us, he was saying something (a bit long sentence) but the point is he was offering us drinks (beer). We refused his offer and thanked him for his offer and we explain that we dont drink. oh and btw, this "guy" was part of a group (so they kind of made a circle and talked to each other) that consisted of 3/4 guys. And I thought probably there was a discussion between him and his group before he approached us and offered us a drink. And to be honest, I didn't really heard what he said when he offered us the drink but for sure he said a long sentence.

And even Dinda, who was right beside him, didn't really hear what he said because it was soo noisy at that time, people were talking super loud. So, after he heard our answer he went back to his "group". Story short, finally after waiting for years, the band finally came. Then I and my friends danced to the song. Even though to be honest, I really didn't know Oasis's songs. I only know the reffs of "Don't look back in anger" :)) But the reason I went there was because I just want to see the performance. (Oh and btw, after I watched the Oasis Tribute band, TO BE HONEST, I think Oasis's songs were damn good!! I like it!)

Okay, so, after some time, there was a bit of space beside me. And suddenly out of nowhere, there was a guy (a different guy) who was blonde, wearing a yellow plaid shirt standing up beside me, getting closer and closer to me. I tried to keep my distance but he kept on getting closer to me, while dancing and vibing to the songs. And to be honest, at that time, I felt uneasy and uncomfortable because he kept on getting closer to me. And also looked directly at me a few times. At first, I just let him because I thought he might be looking at something beside me, but not me. Anddd out of a sudden, he put his arm around my shoulder while holding his glass (beer, I guess) while also keeping on dancing. And I was surprised because I really didn't expect that. And to be honest, I am not really usual to physical touch, so I was surprised (but my friend said that I look terrified hahaha). But to be honest, I felt that that guy didn't want to do a really bad thing because his hand just stay there on my shoulder. But still, I didn't really comfortable and also surprised and also I thought what if he, out of a sudden, kissed me??? what should I do?? it's not like that's impossible at that point.

Then, my awesome and brave and also sensitive friend automatically and strongly pulled me closer to her and then put her arm around my shoulder, which caused the guy's arm to fall. Can you see what a hero figure my friend was? :")))  But unfortunately, Fina is a girl, not a boy!! Hahaha. Even though to be honest, she was a bit overreacting because from judging from the guy's behavior, me and Dinda thought he was just trying to vibe to the song with me. But yeah, Fina embraced me so the guy go to another girl (i guess, i didnt really see him). I swear, it was a bit like a drama but honestly after Fina pulled me, I was even more terrified, because I was like  HEHHH??What is this? What happened?

Then dinda also asked "hah, what happened?" But I didnt really answer because it was too noisy and the music was too loud so it's really hard to hear eachother. After that, Dinda also told me that when she saw my face, I looked really terrified. Yeah, to be honest, that's right, after Fina pulled me I was getting more terrified. But, I keep on trying to dance, focus on the band's performance and keep on trying to act like nothing happened. Dinda also told me not to panic and just keep on dancing (even though honestly, I felt I did already dance!). And hahah yeah sorry I was a bit shy girl and not that extra girl:"). This was the first story.

The second was, sometime after that, we went back to our previous position, when I wasn't really close to Fina. And again, there was some space beside me. So, here comes this long-black haired guy, who wore black shirt that was standing closer and closer to me. Again, I felt uneasy. And that's when suddenly a plastic glass fell in front of me and I can assure you that it was intentional because I saw a hand holding that glass and it was directed towards me. The glass itself was empty, but why? What the hell? Then I was surprised and I looked at him to confirm what the hell did just hapen. And when I looked at him, he was saying sorry too many times and also saying some longer sentence which I didn't really heard and understand. And me and Fina slowly moving away from him, and saying "it's okay, it's okay.." but he keep on leaning towards us and keep on talking and saying things I didn't really understand. And here, Fina was started feeling annoyed. 

And the last was, when we were explicitly moving away from him, which at that time we chose to stand behind Dnda, but it turned out that this a$$h0le (sorry but he deserves this word), was also slowly moving closer to us again. And then out of a sudden, he was there, right behind us. And he kept on trying to talk to us. I really didn't hear and understand what he was saying at that time but honestly I remembered one of the sentences that I catch was "What's your... (the next is im not sure, it's either name/address). And after that, I forgot what was happening but I remember that I felt his behavior was weird.

Then, at first I didn't do anything because that guy was closer to Fina than me. And after quite a while, he was a bit far from us. And story short, they tried to get close to me and Fina again and it's like they were trying to bother us. Fina was really annoyed and angry, she said to that guy like "I will punch your face" while pointing at him.... omg my friend is reaaalllyy cool right!!!! :"))))

And then that guy, just stood in silence, but still close to us. I didnt know what was wrong with him and himself and his mind. But you know what, luckily there was this old gentleman who noticed that we were being disturbed and annoyed by this guy (and his red shirt shorter friend). At first this old gentleman said to me "Are you okay? You can call the security if you want. The security is over there..". Then I just nodded and told Fina what the old gentleman told me. And after that he chose to take a step and approach the a$$hole long-haired guy with a black shirt, and he talked to him while using his hand (doing like a "stop" motion with his hand). And I saw this long-black haired guy's listened to the man and nodding and saying "okay, okay".

And story short, after that, they didn't disturb us anymore. But until the end of the band's performance, he kept standing quite close to us. At first, the long-black-haired guy was still close to me but then I moved away from him, I steped back and stood close to an elder woman that was standing behind me from the previous. So the position at that time was like (dinda - fina - me - old woman 1 - old woman 2 - long-black haired guy). And in the end, finally, this lbh guy decided to embrace and stick close to the old woman 2 until the end of the band's performance, alhamdulillah yeayyyy.

And yeaah, that's it. To be honest, at first, I didn't really notice that he was doing something that can lead to racist, sexual harassment, or even making fun of me as a human being (?). Because to be honest, I was really confused of what was happening. I was scared to take a big action, because I'm afraid that I'll overreact or something like that. But when we were on the way back to our accommodation, Fina and Dinda told me so. Then, I thought that they could be right. And also he did that because we rejected/refused the drink he offered to us before?? Hmm i dont know. But I'm really thankful for Fina, my friend, she was really protective and cooll!!!

What an experience hahahahah, fun but scary!!!!

Anyway what I wanted to discuss here is that... Even thought it's not confirmed yet, from that guy, what was his motives and reasons for doing what he was doing to me, and my friends.. But, if, only what the long-black haired guy doing, was because i'm small, i wear hijab, and different.... Then I want to ask to the world, why? Is it wrong being different? I was born like this, I was really grateful for my self. For however I look, my heights.. But why I keep feeling that people looked at me as different because im too small. Or look different.

I didn't hurt them, did I? Is it really wrong being different??? All I wanted is just to live peacefully... :"( To be honest, at first, I didn't really care, infact i'm really grateful for my heights... But after getting some treatment from some people, I started to feel insecure a little bit. I'm starting to questioning myself. Is being short, different, unfashionable and just wearing anything I wanted, is wrong?

Tell me, is it wrong?